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Teen Abuse happens everywhere, from kids in middle school to high school, to also college kids dealing with abusive boyfriends/girlfriends.

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At the beginning, Katie, Laura, Carrie and Shaina were just teenage girls in love.
"He would just always tell me how beautiful I was and how wonderful I was and how lucky he was to have me and I just was on cloud nine. I felt great," said Katie, now 19.
But eventually all of these girls found their boyfriends turning controlling and abusive.
"He told me what to do, what to wear, how to act, what to say, what am I doing next, what am I cooking, what am I eating. Everything," Laura said. "I pretty much stopped talking to my parents for the most part. I stopped talking to my friends. It was just me and him alone all the time."
Carrie said her boyfriend "wrote notes that listed what I should do for the day. … He wouldn't let me smile in class. He felt like I was, it was a way of me flirting with boys. … I just had no control of my own life."
Some, like Shaina, found themselves the victims of violence.
"He grabbed me by the ponytail and he threw me on the bed and he held me down, screaming at me in my face," she said.
They are among many young women who are verbally, physically and sexually abused by their boyfriends. According to the Justice Department, 16- to 24-year-old women are the victims of relationship abuse more than any other age group. read more

Statistics:















  • 1 in 3 teenagers report knowing a friend or peer who has been hit, punched, kicked, slapped, choked or physically hurt by their partner. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited; February 2005.)
  • 1 in 4 teenage girls who have been in relationships reveal they have been pressured to perform oral sex or engage in intercourse. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited; February 2005.)
  • More than 1 in 4 teenage girls in a relationship (26%) report enduring repeated verbal abuse. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited; February 2005.)
  • Nearly 80% of girls who have been physically abused in their intimate relationships continue to date their abuser.(Liz Claiborne Inc. study conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited; February 2005.)
  • Less than 25% of teens say they have discussed dating violence with their parents. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study of teens 13-17 conducted by Applied Research and Consulting LLC, Spring 2000)
  • * 68% of teens say boyfriends/girlfriends sharing private or embarrassing pictures/videos on cell phones and computers is a serious problem.
    Cell phone calls and texting at unimaginable frequency mean constant control day and night
  • * Nearly one in four teens in a relationship (24%) communicated with their partner via cellphone or texting HOURLY between midnight and 5:00am.
  • * One in three teens (30%) say they are text messaged 10, 20, 30 times an hour by a partner inquiring where they are, what they're doing, or who they're with. (Liz Claiborne Inc. study conducted by Teenage Research Unlimited; Technology & Teen Dating Abuse Survey, 2007)
statistics found from http://www.teensagainstabuse.org/index.php?q=statistics


Help!:
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Links
teen dating abuse hotline





The cycle of abusive relationships

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Cycle of abuse:
  1. Honeymoon Phase: This is the phase when both people love each other, are happy, and enjoy spending time together. There are no arguments and very little stress on the relationship.
  2. Tension Phase: Tension increases because of a lack of communication or one or both accounts. Little things start to frustrate one or both partners and the couple gets into small arguments.
  3. Abuse Phase: This phase is usually based on one argument or problem that triggers an abusive response. Most likely anger, hostility towards other person, blaming, yelling, intimidation, etc. This phase does tend to be the shortest and most damaging phase.
  4. Regret Phase: The abusive partner usually feels bad or regrets what has happened and does anything to make up for his or her behavior.



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